My new wife and daughter dont get along
Cathleen Brown — Oct 11th, My daughter is Her mother and I divorced four years ago. I am remarried. My daughter and my new wife do not get along at all. Each has her reasons; however, I feel that it is probable that my ex-wife has had some influence on my daughter's feelings.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: Tips for Couples - Spouse Doesn't Get Along with Family
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Bonds between some daughters- and mothers-in-law are sometimes compared to the close friendship that Ruth and Naomi enjoyed Ruth But far too many women describe this relationship as fragile, tense, and even competitive. Recently I asked some friends a few simple questions about in-laws.
I was amazed by the number of replies I received about mothers-in-law. I also was surprised by the depth of their emotion. Her memories are still painful. Until … the topic turned to how many turkey dinners the in-laws had eaten in the last two months and how much better homemade cranberry sauce is than the canned version.
I received a three-page response from another daughter-in-law about an overnight visit from her mother- and sister-in-law. At one point, the mother-in-law was lying on the couch with a migraine as she directed her own daughter to clean the house.
The young girl complained that everything was already clean. Another woman poured her heart out to me. Although she and her husband have been married for more than three decades, she still feels that, no matter what she does, she will never measure up to the standards of her mother-in-law. She loves Jesus with her whole heart and that is what makes her so valuable.
From these and other stories, I realized that daughters-in-laws want to say a lot! Love unconditionally but also understand your correct place in the relationship with your child.
Expect and encourage him to consult with his wife. Good mamas want their kids to have good marriages. This can be done lovingly and constructively. Remember that Satan wants to destroy your relationship. Compliment your daughter-in-law; never criticize. A good mother-in-law encourages, accepts, and loves unconditionally.
Every change that you see in your son is not her doing. Show some interest in the things that are most important to them … even if you think they are making wacky decisions. Know that if their decision is a mistake, it will be a learning opportunity for them.
Talk about more than superficial things. It encourages her when you ask her to go shopping and then ask her opinion about a purchase. Show your daughter-in-law that you truly appreciate her input and enjoy being with her.
The comment that she may hear that sounds rude to her, or the action that may come across as hurtful like a missed birthday card is usually the dumb stumble of an imperfect person me.
I often feel that every action is interpreted in the worst light as a personal affront against her. Do not analyze and try to figure out what you did wrong. She and my father-in-law are retired and have nothing else to do. Come be a part of our lives. We exist to help you succeed in the three most important relationships in life. God, Spouse, Kids. You want casual, authentic, alongside advice for your family. Stay connected with our doable, rock-solid advice for families just like yours—right to your inbox every week.
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Editor's Note: Every Monday, Lori Gottlieb answers questions from readers about their problems, big and small. Have a question? Email her at dear. I remarried about 28 years ago and have two children, both daughters, with my current wife. My oldest daughter was a bridesmaid at the second wedding and seemed accepting of the new family dynamic.
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