I want a man to take care of me financially
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I make my living flying around the world, talking to women about how to take control of their money so they can afford their dream life. My friend Dylan was courting a lady. The relationship was fairly new. She had other plans. She mentioned that she was hungry. He offered to take her for some fast food or something quick. She decided that she wanted to eat at a pretty expensive restaurant. Dylan was just surprised and disappointed. He knew that she was taking advantage of the situation.
Historically, the gentleman has been responsible for covering the expenses. However, after a few dates, guys get tired of always paying. I personally appreciate it when the lady at least offers to pay or pitch in at some point. Money, budgeting, debt, credit score, and so on. These are all sensitive topics when it comes to first date conversations. This is why I had to write about money and dating today. I doubt that any of my buddies care about your credit score either. We just want to get laid.
We just want to have fun. It also comes down to what kind of guy you are. Others are more frugal. My financial goals come first. When you get serious, money becomes everything. Money determines what you do for fun, what you eat, where you live, and how you live. Money is the deciding factor in every decision that you make as a couple.
Every couple would love to spend their holidays in Aruba. You need to know where both partners stand. I would much rather train or invest money into my business.
This gets me in trouble with every relationship. Friends will come and go. Romantic partners will enter, stick around, and then turn into complete strangers. For example, I have a friend who disappears whenever he finds a new girlfriend. He jumps all in. Money is very important when it comes to your relationships. You can ignore it at first, but the topic of money will always creep up into conversation. Check out this Love and Money episode of TalkingTaboo to hear more perspectives on money and dating….
From my female perspective, I like to get a relationship started on an equal footing, so I always offer to share expenses right from the first date. I love that you are writing about this. From then on, I would want to alternate who pays each time. I feel that can be understood within the first few dates, though. Some folks can present a successful image to the world only to be flat broke behind the scenes. A longer term commitment and especially marriage requires a life that you are willing to share, which eventually includes some type of shared finances.
As an entrepreneur I date more outgoing and successful woman so there is never a worry about money. I pay, they pay, on and on. It is when I date people hustling the that I run into problems whether it is crippling debt or belief in outdated social dating norms. Paying all the time sucks, even if you have money and people who try to pay their way with intimate resources are even worse as it flips the whole nature of a relationship. Being upfront about money is hard when you are transitioning from dating to a relationship.
It is hard. But it has to be dealt with. Disparate spending values are definitely a challenge to negotiate. I still feel that if you allow people to pay for you, you are giving them some amount of control over you so I am uncomfortable allowing people to pay. Once I have decided that me and a guy are an item which is rare , I have no problem treating him to lunch or dinner.
If he pays for dinner I always take care of the tip. One thing that I have learned is if the person your trying to start a relationship is horrible with their money, and not willing to change…. Sounds like the girl your friend Dylan was courting was after a sugar daddy. In my opinion, those types of relationships never work out over the long run. Beliefs and philosophies about money have to be ballpark compatible for a relationship to turn more serious.
He was smart enough to catch this right away. I never let the girl pay for meal in dates. Based on experience, topic about money comes in later on when relationship is getting a bit serious. It just feels wrong to let the girl pay. I think the earlier you talk about money, the better.
I thought that since I was the one who had asked them out, I should be the one paying for the meal. Perhaps the guys thought that regardless of who asked who, the guy should be the one to pay for the first date.
With my fiance, I paid on the second date, and from then on we just alternated. He explained them in a way that gave me the impression he had learned from these and had grown wiser in the ways of money.
Not so. Cannot believe it. I paid my zero prevent car loan off as soon as I could because I hate debt. I feel like a heel. You are treating them to a lovely day out. The biggest rule with money and dating is to never let money cause awkwardness. When the girls talk a lot for equal rights as men then why do they try to shy away from sharing the financial burden. A lot of people also think that whoever asked for the date in the first place man or woman should pay, which I understand too.
My… Goodness.. This article has restored my hopes!!! Great article and seeing it from the mans prospective. I feel so guilty about the subject of who pays on dates.
I agree that a man should pay on the first date or even the second, It is always the attitude of shut up and pay as the man but I work too. Although I make a decent income I am not rich and I do have bills just like the next person. I tend to have a problem when a date never asks to pay for a tip or at least a share the bill after a while.
It just makes me feel that they are taking advantage of the situation and I would not want to be with someone like that for a long-term relationship. I am about to bring up this subject after being on a 4th date.
I like the traditional way and when man takes care of the woman. I find it extremely manly, classy, and impressive. Both sexes should respect and appreciate each other for who they are. Woman this days, do really make their life harder. I see it among my acquaintances. I would never date a man who would expect me to split bill red flag , and in fact it never happened.
Aftet 2 weeks of dating she asked me to buy her groceries and put gas in her car! I told her she really haf balls to ask me something like that and told het hell no! She called me cheap!!! I told her to keep surfing the web and terminated all contact. If you approached the conversation like that for sure. If you take a moment to understand how your date communicates than you should be able to fully understand the best way to approach them about splitting a date or trading off financial responsibilities surrounding paying for a date.
I personally like to be courted. People get very complacent and it kills the romance. Maybe I am old fashioned. I think that sounds evolved. Everyone has their own approach when it comes to dating.
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I think a man should support a woman financially without complaints. Unfortunately as a female i already would feel bad taking money from my partner, without a relationship. I suppose times have changed. This is insane!
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He framed it as him wanting to take care of me, to earn on behalf of both of us so that I could stay at home. But in quitting her job, Jenna became entirely financially dependent on her boyfriend. This meant her boyfriend told her what to do, eat, buy, wear — after all, he was paying for everything, and she needed his permission to spend money. Because he was paying my bills, he had access to my phone bill and records, my bank account, my receipts. I had zero control and zero privacy. This can include forbidding you from working or asking you to quit their job; forcing you to be financially dependent on the abuser; and fundamentally diminishing your capacity to support yourself financially. You can apply at your nearest magistrate court for a protection order against an abuser.
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I make my living flying around the world, talking to women about how to take control of their money so they can afford their dream life. My friend Dylan was courting a lady. The relationship was fairly new. She had other plans.