How should a husband protect his wife
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How Does a Husband Protect His Wife
Slowly the details begin to emerge. We learn the names of the victims and their stories. We learn about the gunman and his motivations. And we lament over all the missed warning signs. In a desperate attempt to make sense of the senseless we analyze everything, we hope to find an answer somewhere.
The sense of security we once had now seems elusive. With each new detail, we realize that it easily could have been us, our spouse, our child, our parent. When the cold, hard truth of our vulnerability finally sets in, fear turns to anger. Something must be done! How can we protect our loved ones from the evil that exists?
Some advocate eliminating guns from society. Others try to solve the problem by arming themselves. As a husband and father, I know that it is my responsibility to protect my family. When there is a bump in the night, it is my job to investigate. Whether armed with a weapon or my bare hands, I must be prepared to defend my wife and kids in any way that I can, even if it means giving up my life to save theirs. Then indeed he may plunder his house.
Could I really protect my family from a home invasion? And then, as I considered that question, I realized that evil was not only attacking my house, but I had actually let it in. So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate. Every time I read this story, I want to scream.
God told Adam earlier that the tree was forbidden, yet he stood by in silence as Satan told Eve lies. He watched as she stepped up to the tree, examined its fruit, and took her first bite.
History may have turned out differently had he done that, but instead, he stood by and did nothing. To make matters worse, he followed her lead, when he knew better. Our family recently moved over 1, miles away from everyone we ever knew.
When we did, my wife lost more than her career, friends, and family … she slowly began to lose her identity. I thought it was something that would pass with time, so I did what many guys do.
I let her have her space. Basically, I did nothing. Satan had been invading my home since we moved. I watched in silence as her joy slipped away and her bitterness over the move grew. I commanded that he leave my wife alone and I began to cover her in prayer each morning. After over 18 months of allowing Satan to have victories in my house, he finally began to retreat.
If you are going to engage in spiritual warfare on behalf of your family, you must prepare yourself. I let my wife fight her battle alone for so long because I was spiritually weak.
The community of godly men that I once had around me, urging me forward, was over 1, miles away. The new church that we had been visiting was filled with strangers. To make matters worse, I let myself fall out of the habit of regularly reading my Bible and praying. My spiritual life became stagnant. I was empty myself and had little to give. One of the blessings of living in the South is that there are plenty of churches to choose from.
One of the curses of being in the South is that there are plenty of churches to choose from. We wasted too much time bouncing around from church to church in search of the perfect fit. One problem was that I kept trying to find a church that would make my wife happy. Unfortunately, she was too homesick to be able to appreciate any church. The more we looked, the more Sunday morning became a depressing reminder of all we had lost. It became all about us and not about God. It was exhausting. This led me to make what felt like an incredibly selfish choice.
I put a stake in the ground and picked the church that offered me the best chance at spiritual growth. Initially, my decision was met with grumbling.
I was tempted to give in, but I knew that I could not properly lead my family as a church-hopping nomad. Surprisingly, within about a week the complaining stopped. With the burden of making a choice lifted, the family could finally begin to settle down.
It was terrifying. I wanted to run, but for the sake of my family, I overcame my doubts and committed to getting to know the guys at my table. I was honest with these men from the start. I laid out my issues and I gave the men permission to get in my face and ask me the tough questions.
When we first moved, I complained about everything. My constant complaining opened the door for Satan to walk in and make himself at home. My sinful attitude helped a spirit of bitterness take root in my wife and children. They were following my example. Whether we realize it or not, what we choose to complain about, the language we use, the shows we allow on our TVs, the friends we invite over … it all matters.
As the head of the house, it is my responsibility to keep evil out. This means I first need to keep it as far away from myself as I can. There is evil in the world. Sometimes it shows itself in overt displays of violence and shocks us to our core. Sometimes the attacks are more subtle and can go unnoticed for years. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.
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